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Modesty – It Matters: The Need for Modesty

Posted by Pastor Szekely on May 7, 2008

[This is post #3 of 3 – please click here to begin at post #1 on “Modesty – It Matters”]


 1) Because immodesty increases sin (Prov 23:27-28), and it is modesty that curbs immodest behavior – that behavior which increases sin…and

2) When mankind fell into sin, the heart became darkened and desperately wicked…


Immodesty has an identity as we’ve seen in our last post in Proverbs 7. As with immodesty, modesty also comes with an identity. This is very important to note. Deut 22:5 tells us, “The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.” What is God telling us in this verse? Simply: Men ought to wear men’s clothes and women ought to wear women’s clothes! Why does it say that God is telling us this? If men were to wear women’s clothing, or if women were to wear men’s clothing, that would be an abomination before God. So God is telling us – He’s reiterating to us – the Bible fact that man and woman have different identities! You should be able to look at someone and recognize that person as a man or a woman…whether a young person or a child is a boy or a girl.

Babies Indentified in ColorBTW: Did you know – The idea of dressing newborns in either blue or pink is rooted in the Bible fact of identity and modesty? Blue is a “boy’s color” while pink is a “girl’s color”. This speaks of identity. And modesty is behaving according to a standard of what is proper, decent, and pure…especially in the display of one’s body. So even at birth we try to display a modest difference in identity!

But soon after infancy we find out that this world tries to “wipe out” the different identities, or if they can’t be wiped out, this world tries to make these identities immodest! It’s getting more difficult to buy clothes for children today even though there are many clothes out there. Much of today’s fashions either try to make our sons look like a girl, or they try to make our daughters look like a boy…or an immodest harlot with midriffs and tight, revealing clothing.

In many cases and most often, it’s the way a woman looks and her modesty that are under attack from the enemy. Men also need to be on guard and aware as well, but most often it is the woman who is under attack. Why is this?

The woman was created for the man [Gen 2:18], and God brought her unto the man [Gen 2:22]. And then Adam said in vs23-24: “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

Now you might say, “Well, what does that mean?” It means that the woman was made for the man – to compliment him, NOT to compete against him – she was made to be his companion and they both, to become “one flesh”. God knows this, man knew this, and the devil knows it! This is why the woman’s modesty and dress is most often under attack. Immodesty is used by the devil to make man fall. God knows this, and that’s why modesty IS the Bible way.

Ladies, would you consider yourself modest in the way you think, act, and dress? 1 Tim 2:9-10 says, “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.” Let me give you 3 good questions to ask yourself as you examine your apparel:

#1: Is it too short?

Dresses, skirts, blouses, tops, shorts, (swimwear?  It’s more like “underwear” today!)

#2: Is it too tight?

Dresses, skirts, pants, tops – They need to have some slack to be modest!

#3: Is it too low?

Tops; Wedding dresses – If there’s ever going to be a day in your life that you should look chaste, modest, and pure, it should be your wedding day.


What are the goals of modesty? If you read and remember my first post on modesty I asked the question: What in the world do we wear? I said that it’s more important to ask “How do I wear” rather than “What do I wear”…why? BECAUSE THE REAL ISSUE IS THE HEART! “How you dress on the outside says a lot about you on the inside!”


Now if this is true (and it is), let me ask you this: Where do goals come from? Goals begin internally (in your heart) and they’re expressed externally (in the way you act; in the way you dress). So the goals of modesty are a heart issue! Modesty or immodesty will begin in the heart (internally), and it will be expressed in the way you act and dress (externally).


For example: Why do you dress the way you do? What kind of reactions are you trying to get? Can a person dress well (attractively) without being seductive? It really comes down to a ‘heart issue’. Attractiveness is different than sexuality. The world equates the two by getting us to think that to be attractive is to flaunt the intimate parts of your body. That is utterly wrong! What we ought to be attracted to is one “professing godliness with good works”, and “the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price” (1 Pet 3:4).


There ought to be two goals of modesty:




1 Cor 10:31, “Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.”

1 Cor 6:19-20, “What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”


How I wear my ________” is all about glorifying God. When a Christian gets dressed, that person is dressing a body that belongs to God!




2 Cor 5:9, “Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of him.”

1 John 3:21-22,”Beloved, if our heart condemn us not, then have we confidence toward God. And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.”


 “Do I please God with what I put on”…“Am I covering my nakedness, and am I setting out to be modest”…these ought to be our questions.


Modesty matters – It’s the Bible Way – and it begins in the heart…it’s a heart issue. Modesty is behaving according to a standard of what is proper, decent, and pure…especially in the display of one’s body…

And that’s all that God asks for.


8 Responses to “Modesty – It Matters: The Need for Modesty”

  1. Sis. Julie said

    Thank you so much for commenting over at Julie’s Jewels. I wanted to come by and check out your blog. I love what I’ve seen so far. I will be back. I also added you to my list of blogs on my blog….I hope that is okay.

  2. Thank you for clicking in, sis!

    And you are welcome about commenting on your blog…what I read was a blessing to me. You really have a good blog, and I’ll be perusing it more and more. Thank you very much for adding my blog to your list – that’s great!

    C’mon back to the Pastor’s Pen anytime, and Lord bless!

  3. Andrew Diorio said

    Hey, Bro. Szek! Great series on modesty! Modesty is an issue that is not preached about much in the American pulpits, due to the fact that it often times not something people want to hear about. But it DOES MATTER!!! We ought not take our standards for modesty from the world!! Do we take our standards for doctrine from what the world thinks? Or do we take the world’s view of how the world came to be? We do not. However, many Christians DO set their standards of modesty/immodesty by what the world projects as acceptable. We need to be taking our standards, like we do for everything else, from the Word of God. And if we take the time to study what it says, we will find that it is very definitive as to what is acceptable and what is not. Its interesting how a study like this can open your eyes to what the Bible REALLY says about modesty, if we will take an open-minded view of it. Lord help us to choose how we dress, not by what the world says, or projects as acceptable, but by what GOD says.

    As always Brother, LORD BLESS!!!



    Great comments – you hit the nail right on the head when you write about getting our standards from the Word of God, studying the Bible to understand what IS and IS NOT right and what pleases God, and taking an open-minded and honest view of what God does say. If we reverence God’s Word and magnify it above everything else, how can we go wrong!

    Thanks for clicking in and giving your thoughts – it is always a blessing to me to read and hear what God has laid on your heart.

    Keep on keepin’ on, my brother…and Lord-willing, we’ll see you and your family soon [I pray]!

    Lord bless!

  5. Jillian said

    Hi Bro,

    This was an awesome series! It’s always good for a girl(or anybody) to see a man speak on the issue. I work on the bus route,and I appreciate my male friends that tell the little girls that they look nice in their modest dresses. I just want when those same girls grow up in this world and some worldly guy may something negative about their dresses,they can remember what they learned in church and not all guys are that way.

    Oh,and by the way,I read your reply to my other post,and I’m so glad you’ll be coming to the youth rally! Lordwilling I will see you,because I go to that church in North Platte! Our youth rally is awesome,and the preaching is such a blessing!

  6. Great hearing from you again, Jillian!

    Thank you for your comments – I desire the same for my daughter.

    I’m really looking forward to the youth rally! I pray God would move and use it in mighty ways – see you there!

    Thanks for reading the “modesty” series, and Lord bless!

  7. Courtney said

    I have read this series on modesty and was in the Amen section all the way through. Having two daughters, this has been of particular concern for us. We have chosen the all dresses/skirts path. It was difficult finding modest clothing, but God blessed us with a huge thrift store about an hour away and they carry clothes from the more elite clothing stores. I can buy my daughters beautiful, modest dresses for an average of $2 a piece.

    I didn’t think modesty would be an issue having boys, but it is almost more of a problem than the girls. Not that my boys dress immodestly, but that we can’t take them in public without them being assaulted by women with no shamefacedness. I do pray women would wake up to their real value and not think that showing their body is what makes them valuable.

    Long winded again! Thanks for the posts on this subject.

  8. No, Courtney…you’re not longwinded! Thank you for your comments! It blesses me to hear what God is doing, and I really appreciate you testifying on it.

    And isn’t it amazing what the Lord allows us to find at the thrift stores? Praise God for His Provision!

    Thanks for clicking in, and Lord bless!

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